Alanis Morissette’s 10 Poignant Insights Into Love And Family

April 4, 2014


Alanis Morissette wrote a piece for “The Fashion Spot” outlining her feelings on love and family. The article offered a look into the mind of this influential Canadian-American singer-songwriter on some issues that are close to her heart. Here are some of the highlights.

1. On the importance of monogamy

Morissette is definitely big on monogamy, writing that it is an important part of her definition of marriage. Being “trapped” in this way is not at all boring to her. Instead, she sees it as a hot kitchen that creates a kind of “alchemy.”

2. Helping your partner heal

To Morissette, monogamy doesn’t just relate to sexual fidelity, but also to being an active participant in helping your partner with their healing. This isn’t always an easy thing, and does sometimes require partners to change for one another.

3. Why changing for your partner isn’t always bad

Morissette doesn’t see it as a bad thing when relationships require change. She stresses, however, that this doesn’t mean partners need to change their essential qualities for each other, but only certain behaviors.

4. On raising a humanist

Morissette had her first child back in December of 2010, and she has a lot of thoughts about raising him. She wants to teach him to value femininity as well as masculinity, and to focus on the whole person rather than on just one aspect of them.

5. Why she chose homeschooling

Morissette has chosen to homeschool her son because she wants to be able to personally nurture and protect him. She also wants to make sure that he gets every opportunity to grow and express himself.

6. Masculine generosity

When talking about the ideal masculine quality, in both males and females, Morissette focuses on the idea of providing for others. She sees masculinity at its best as being very generous, no matter the gender it is expressed in.

7. How the idea of male “provision” has changed

While in the past male provision was about bringing home the literal bacon in terms of a paycheck, Morissette says that the masculine now provides a “different kind of currency.” Today, this provision is sometimes more about listening and showing support.

8. On what she looks for in a partner

The type of currency that Morissette personally values from her partner is him showing a commitment to their growth as a couple, and to changing behaviors which keep them from feeling close to one another.

9. On how men are built

Morissette thinks that men are fundamentally built to provide, protect, and to show generosity to the people they care about. If they can have a positive and genuine impact on the lives of friends and family, then she thinks they can be truly happy.

10. What makes women grateful

Morissette notes that different women want a variety of different things from men. Some need financial support while others need him to be good with the children. When men are able to adapt and provide for these different needs, women are deeply touched and grateful.